Love

It seems like every day, there is a new famous couple who is breaking up or getting a divorce. With the divorce rate at around 50 percent, something has gone horrendously wrong. I have such a hard time with watching a marriage dissolve on reality TV. Kim Kardashian, a socialite who has too much money and too little personality, was married to NBA player Kris Humphries for 72 days. They have a reality TV show where the whole nation - make that world - can watch the 72 days unravel. The entire time I am watching this show, it is so blatantly obvious that Kim has no clue whatsoever about what love really is.

The Kardashians have had several reality TV shows, including a $20 million wedding special of Kim and Kris' nuptials. Throughout the pre-marital shows, Kim and Kris are "in love." They both gush about how much they love each other, and they want to spend the rest of their lives together. As soon as they are married, everything that Kris does bothers Kim. Kim expects Kris to be at her beck and call. Kris tries to exert his "manhood" to prove that he will not be manipulated by Kim. It all comes down to a warped sense of what love truly is. Kim is selfish, unwilling to compromise, and not once does she think of her husband, his desires or his needs.

It is my prayer, my dear children, that you learn what real love is. Do not buy into the reality TV version of what the secular world teaches you is love. The Bible says in I Corinthians that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

Love is not just the butterflies you get in your stomach or the fairy tale that a little girl dreams of when she is growing up. Love is a commitment. It is committing to someone that you will cherish them for always. Love is a choice. It is a choice every day to willingly put that person's life and well-being above one's own. It is not easy, and it is not always roses and rainbows.

Love is willingly sacrificing your own happiness to see a smile on that person's face. If you are not willing to sacrifice, or if you are having feelings of resentment toward that person for what you have given up, then it is not love, and you need to move on. When you first realize it is not love, move on then. Do not try to make it work; do not hold on, because that will only lead to further heartache for you and that other person.

Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't see how awesome you are. Love is a two-way street, and if someone doesn't love you the way you are, he is the one who is missing out. Love him, be kind to him, then move on.

God has someone so special for each of you, and He is preparing each man for you. Remember that it will be on His timing for your life, not yours. I pray for both men that will one day marry each of you. I pray that God is protecting them and keeping them safe. I pray that He is preparing their hearts to listen to His word and His voice. I pray that He fashions both men to be the spiritual leader in your life that you need and want. In addition, Mikayla and Macey, I pray that the Lord is molding your heart to learn to love and learn to listen to Him.

You two girls in such a short time have taught me so much about love and life, and about God's will and God's way. You are both so special and so precious. I pray that you will listen and heed my words and God's words. I love you both to the moon and back.